Hi friends! Happy monday and welcome back! I don’t know about you but January is always a tough month for me; It’s cold, dreary and leaves me COMPLETELY unmotivated. I always have the best of intentions when bringing in a new year but more often than not, I find myself burnt out and overwhelmed from the end-of-year holiday shenanigans and can’t muster up the energy to workout, write/blog or even cook for myself…I know, I’m a mess. As ridiculous as that may seem, I’m sure I’m not the only one who feels that way and you know what, that’s okay! I feel like we put so much pressure on ourselves to start off the new year on the “right foot” and sometimes I feel like we just push ourselves a little too hard. So if you’re feeling burnt out, unmotivated or weighed down by the gloomy weather or a slow start to the year, then this post is for you! I have compiled a list of things that help me beat the January doom & gloom and help me re-focus my efforts on being a real person, I hope you find them helpful.
1. UNPLUG: Turn off your phones, tablets & computers. There’s nothing worse than getting on Instagram and seeing everyone in your feed going to the gym, making 5 course meals and seemingly crushing all of their 2018 goals. But let’s be real, they’re probably struggling too, we just aren’t seeing it. If you’re really trying to beat the doom & gloom I would encourage you to put the phone/tablet/computer down; “comparison is thief of joy” and nobody has time for that!
2. PRACTICE SELF-CARE: I don’t think I understood how truly important self-care was until my late 20s (I was behind the times), and let me tell ya, it’s a game changer. Whatever makes you happy, whatever makes you feel joy, DO THAT! I personally like to treat myself to an at-home spa day; candles, mani/pedi, face mask, bubble bath and a good old-fashioned rom-com. Another thing I enjoy is sitting alone (in the dark) on the couch listening to my best country playlist…that sounds depressing when I type it out but I promise it helps – lol.
3. WORKOUT: This is an interesting one because this is something that I struggle to do when I’m feeling burnt out and unmotivated. In fact, missing my workouts lead me a dark place of feeling crummy and terrible about myself which then makes me even more unmotivated, what a sick little cycle. With that being said, I find that when I do drag my butt to yoga I feel 100 times better when I walk out than when I walked in. I know finding the time & motivation to get to the gym can be hard, so when I’m in a rut I typically try to find a fitness class (cycle, yoga, pilates, etc.) that I can go to with a friend to help jumpstart my new workout regimen.
4. LAUGH MORE: This may seem silly but I PROMISE you it helps. A good girls night, a long phone call with your best friend, game nights with the people you love or even your favorite comedy; anything that gets you smiling and laughing will do wonders for your overall mood and help to reset your gloomy outlook. I’m lucky enough to have a handful of people that know EXACTLY how to handle my “blah” & “self-loathing” moods, if you have that person, let them know that you need some support, I’m sure they’d be happy to help!
5. PLAN A TRIP: If you are in the position to plan a weekend getaway, I 100% recommend it. There’s something about “getting away” that allows you to disconnect and refocus on the things you find important. I personally think of it as a hard reset, it’s as if I rediscover myself more and more during those weekends away. Sometimes taking time for yourself is the best thing you can do, allow yourself the room to breathe & relax, your body and mental health will thank you for it later.
6. GET ORGANIZED: If you’re anything like me then your life is in complete disarray when the space around you is cluttered and messy. I’m actively working on this step and I’ll be honest, I’m not doing so well. While my room might be a mess, my planner is filled to the brim with ideas and deadlines and helps to keep me motivated and accountable. Now if only I could get this tornado of a bedroom under control, there’s no telling how productive I could be!
7. ASK FOR HELP: I am the absolute WORST when it comes to verbalizing what I need from people in order to maintain and happy, healthy lifestyle. I tend to sit back and roll with the punches instead of asking for what I need. Don’t worry, I eventually come around and ask for help but only after having a complete meltdown (sobbing and all) while both feet are hanging off the proverbial ledge; I told you, I’m a bit of a mess. My best friend(s) always tells me that I need to stop putting everyone’s needs before my own and start verbalizing what I need when I need it…I know she’s right, I’m working on it. The point I’m trying to make is that you should NEVER feel bad for telling someone how you feel and what you need; If they truly care about you, they’ll do whatever they can to ensure you’re happy, healthy and thriving!
8. DON’T FORCE IT: So you’re feeling burnt out, gloomy and unmotivated, who cares?! You’re human, you’re allowed to feel that way from time to time. Life is hard y’all, and sometimes we need to give ourselves a break. Don’t beat yourself up for missing that workout or eating out 4 nights in a row because you didn’t feel like cooking, this season will pass and things will fall into their rightful place in due time. And you know what, if for some reason things seem to be falling further out of place, reach out to someone and ask for help; whether it’s a friend or a professional, you’re worth it, I promise.
I know the January Blues can be a drag, but hey, February is right around the corner 🙂 If you are someone who is struggling to find their footing in 2018, I pray that you find the tips I shared above helpful and comforting. No matter what you see on social media, everyone is trying to find their way; no one has it all together, I know I sure don’t.
And always remember to show yourself the grace you deserve, because if you don’t, who will?